Are You Too Shy to Try?

Confidence and courage. We all know people who seem to have been born with an abundance, or maybe they came from supportive families that helped them develop these traits. Regardless of the source, we watch with envy the way they effortlessly navigate through life.

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If only we could command attention, speak in public without fear, or introduce ourselves to someone we find attractive. Well, the truth is we can!

Confidence and courage can be learned. They evolve over time through learning and practice, and yes, by making mistakes. People skills can be taught! As a matter of fact, sales people, the group of people known for their charisma and confidence, spend more time and money developing these skills than any other group. They buy books, listen to tapes and enroll in seminars to help keep them positive and to develop essential people skills.

What appears so natural comes from constant role playing, practice and most importantly... REJECTION! It is part of life, and a part of moving forward. The good news is that as skills develop, rejection is reduced. But never eliminated!

However, there are some people who can't initiate these changes. They freeze; they become overwhelmed and socially paralyzed. These feelings aren't normal and can be symptoms of a condition called Social Anxiety. If someone has social anxiety it should be treated.

With appropriate treatment and training, we all can find our Courage and Confidence!